What do the lonely do at Christmas 

What do the lonely do at Christmas??? 🎄🎅🏿🤶🏾  First of all, you’re not Lonely, you’re Single. You will do you, meaning You will love You, your kids, your family, friends and have a wonderful Christmas!

If you’re like me and have an empty nest, go out and find something to do! Take yourself to a fancy Christmas Brunch or Dinner, go to church, knock on your neighbor’s dor and say “I need some of that food yall cooking.” There’s the gift of Facebook and video chatting use it!! If you want to cook your own lil favorites or order it from your favorite caterer. Plus, if you’re in New Orleans there are options.

We tend to focus on not having a relationship during the holidays and if you think about it holidays are more about the kids, go donate your time to some kids if you do not have any of your own. It could simply be buying a toy and donating it or dropping it off at a neighbor’s house.

Enjoy your life, having a man, husband or being in a relationship is magical as it seems, more like a fantasy you create in your head.

 Look around, more than half the women in relationships have some sort of issue with the man, from cheating to not working to being in a domestic abusive relationship and the list of issues continues. Are you willing to endure emotional, physical and/or physical pain just to have a man for Christmas???

We put to much focus on having a Man… What is about having a man that makes one all crazy.??? Loneliness? You have your family and friends, but most importantly you have you.

I get companionship, a solid relationship, but all this fairytale BS needs to stop. Before you call yourself crying over being lonely, develop a relationship with a couple who have been together for 20+ yrs and ask them how they made it.. Having a partner takes work and dedication, a wedding is not a relationship.

Nothing wrong with having friends and being patient until your Mr.Right comes along. When he comes, he will add to the joy and love of Christmas Time. Lonely isn’t just in the physical sense, you can be lonely and married.

Be Happy and have a beautiful Holiday regardless of your relationship status and enjoy your life!




Native of New Orleans, who endured 20yrs cruel Minnesota Cold, I decided at 42yrs old it was time to pack up my then 6yr old and come back to my roots. I am all things that would challenge the belief of growing up in New Orleans. I was a 16yr old teen mother of a preterm 2lb baby girl born with a disability. With the help of my mother who had her own struggles. We survived the obstacles laid before us. I'm the proud mother of three children with two failed adoptions, as well as a grandmother of three, two grandsons and a granddaughter. I survived two abusive marriages. I successfully ran a soulfood restaurant and catering company in Minnesota for 12 years. I started creating custom cakes after the murder of my beloved cousin Melvin Paul.  He survived Katrina only to go to Minneapolis six months later to be murdered over a parking spot dispute.  I put my all into my cake business over the years as House of Cakes was started right out of my house in honor of him. I thought by having the big house on the hill, a husband, having a family, foster/adoptive mother at that, being involved in all things that matter, plus having the funds to match would cure me in a sense; but most of it poisoned my heart and soul. I had a broken heart and I felt deep down the only way to repair it was to get back to my roots, my soul, my home,  myself, my New Orleans. I'm here and I'm loving it. Even being in the so called Blighted Area of New Orleans and not having all the financial and material security, I'm happy. I am determined that She, yes New Orleans is a woman is just like me; together we will overcome and will rise from all that tried to kill our spirit. Nothing like starting from the bottom and making your way back up! I'm down in the boot, but I know I have a nice floppy hat awaiting my destiny...

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